The term “incel” stands for involuntarily celibate. Some say that it describes a very small minority of men who spend most of their awake hours producing misogynistic content and playing video games while rotting in a dirty garage and heaving poisonous sighs, but that’s not actually true.
The reality is that most average men have been involuntarily celibate at some point in their lives. The most popular online searches prove that.
Today, that condition is strongly reinforced by three major factors – extreme female hypergamy, shallow moral standards and the digital infrastructure. Those elements work in perfect harmony to achieve a very unhealthy social habitat fueling unjustified misandry and supporting a dysfunctional societal organism.
Female Hypergamy. I can copy/paste the dictionary definition of hypergamy, but I’d rather give you an example. A friend of my sister got married at 23 to a 28-year-old architect. I knew the woman personally as we’d worked together for a brief period. After a few years of marriage, the man’s salary got cut in half due to the lack of projects. Even with the reduction, he was still making at least 20% above the average wage.
Around that time, his wife decided that “things weren’t going to work out”. In her words, the dude had gotten “inert”. In less than a year, she divorced him and jumped into a relationship with one of their friends. She left her husband destroyed without showing signs of remorse.
I’ve witnessed the execution of similar patterns two more times. In one of the cases, the woman was from an older generation and abandoned the father of her two children for a richer man. Of course, she got custody of the kids.
Shallow moral standards. The modern rules of relationships are as follows – everything goes. People ghost each other and lie all the time. It’s rare to meet someone upfront and honest. More often than not, those who try to be truthful and authentic suffer more than the emotional scoundrels.
The digital infrastructure. Dating apps and social media allow women of all rungs to communicate with male aristocrats. A shoe seller at the mall can know hop on Tinder and talk to football stars secretly. In the past, similar conquests required a lot more “analog” networking. The easy and convenient connection to men of high stratums makes regular guys boring and unappealing.
When you add the classic male willingness to indulge in sexual adventures with any woman that isn’t fat, you have a recipe for never-ending degenerate behavior destroying the possibility of true bonding between a man and a woman.
In simpler terms, the high-status men get advantage of the situation and sleep with many women. Once a woman has experienced passionate moments with Superman, she doesn’t want to go back to an ordinary brah.
All of the above results in the following problem – average men have a hard time satisfying the “love” quotas. To earn a fighting chance, we turn to self-improvement in an attempt to increase our attractiveness which is the number one ranking factor.
Lifting weights [bodybuilding] is one of the most common advices given to guys struggling to get attention from women. Virtually every mainstream outlet focused on self-improvement paints the gym as the ultimate upgrade workshop.
But can this blueprint really work? Can lifting turn typical bros into desirable men?
To determine the effectivity of this method, we first have to define the factors that influence a woman’s choice when picking a man. In most cases, the decision is based on three major properties:
- Level of physical attractiveness
- Resources or $$$ for short
- Social adequacy
What can the gym do to improve those?
Can lifting weights and dieting make you more attractive? Absolutely. Muscle mass and body fat levels have a tremendous impact on how a person looks. Many fat men transform into models once they lose the enormous amount of lard covering their bones.
The jaw is a classic example. When you bulk up, your face gets puffy, and the size of your chin increases. When you cut, the fat and the water go away and leave you with a more defined jaw – a characteristic that women admire as revealed by the horny comments posted underneath pictures of men showcasing such a feature.
But if your jaw is not square and protruding to begin with, no amount of lifting or dieting will trigger a reaction of admiration.
The same applies to height – a metric that women deem incredibly important.
Women do not like short men and are completely ruthless in that preference. Females want to be shorter than their partner even when wearing heels which is why women online quickly ask you how tall you are. They would rather be with a high altitude brah who doesn’t lift than a short man built like a tank.
The same applies to facial attractiveness. While Brad Pitt is undoubtedly more good-looking in a lean state, most women would want him even as a fat brah.
Conclusion: The gym can make you more handsome, but it has no impact on many traits playing a crucial role in the final evaluation. (e.g., facial symmetry, height…etc.)
Bodybuilding does not make you rich unless you are a fitness professional. Many men from the industry have made fortunes by selling supplements, training programs, equipment and other muscle related products. However, most lifters do not enjoy any financial rewards.
The fitness niche is one of the most competitive in the entire universe. Making a name for yourself is very difficult and requires a lot of work supplemented by a great dose of luck. Therefore, the likelihood of becoming incredibly wealthy thanks to bodybuilding is fairly slim.
I know men who are not very attractive but enjoy successful love lives thanks to their social circles. The catch is that most of them met their partners right before the explosion of online dating.
Unfortunately, the gym is an inferior place for socializing. Barbell houses have an incredibly high concentration of asocial specimens. Everybody is ultra-focused on themselves. People rarely talk to each other and when they do, the dialogue is brief and often condescending. Everybody is following a “superior” routine while listening to low IQ music and daydreaming.
If you want to socialize through hobbies, the gym is not a good choice; it’s highly advisable to search for other options. Team sports are a good choice as they offer an opportunity to communicate with many people. But even chess [the offline version] will do a better job than lifting weights since it requires another person to play.
Truth be told, it’s hard to find a sport as conductive to isolation as lifting.
If the gym is not a super potent solution, why do experts recommend it so passionately?
There are two major groups of people who do that. The first one is constituted of unenlightened individuals who don’t know any better. I often call them dreamers. Their ignorance and fragile minds keep them locked in a delusion.
The other crew of lifting advocates is on the opposite end of the spectrum. They know very well that gym training cannot combat the epidemic but continue to market lifting as the ultimate solution to mask the problem and avoid the wrath of the affected souls. Those men are similar to the fake natties who tell you to “just lift harder”.
Self-improvement Cannot be a Long-Term Solution
The fact that average men have to self-improve into oblivion to start a relationship with average women proves that we live in a dysfunctional social system expressing clear signs of gender instability.
Many men claim that they self-improve for themselves, and while there’s some truth to that statement, most of us are trying to become hotter products in the eyes of the human world and women in particular.
Would you lift weights if you were alone on a deserted island? Would you take selfies if there was no one to see them? I doubt it.
The self-improvement mania increases the baseline and pushes the envelope to the extreme.
20 years ago, lifting wasn’t as popular. It was a niche sport. Consequently, it took a lot less effort to look like someone who lifts. If a man was fairly lean and capable of 15 pull-ups, 20 dips and a 1.5BW squat, he was doing ok for himself. Today, the competition is fierce. You have brahs loaded with trenbolone playing with the perception of the public.
Ultimately, the more you self-improve, the more they want.
A Social Climate Serving the Wrong Deities
“Inceldom” is not the result of men’s reluctance to self-improve let alone lift weights. It’s the product of an imbalanced social organism.
In a healthy society, the share of incels wouldn’t be nearly as high, although it will always be present. Nowadays, perfectly healthy and capable men who are not even unattractive have fallen victims to unrealistic expectations and unhealthy demands made by spoiled women encouraged by poisonous doctrines.
Only a complete reeducation of the public and a return to a different set of virtues could heal the wound.
No amount of lifting, dieting and money printing on the male part will better the situation. In many regards, a similar plan of action will only make the situation worse because superficial self-improvement stimulates “inflation” that devalues the true currency.
All Pressure Is on Men
Most self-improvement material focuses on men. The entire Internet is flooded with articles teaching you how to pick women and become a true alpha making tons of passive of income in his sleep. This tendency clearly illustrates that men are struggling. The presented solutions monetize the suffering without fixing anything as they are dealing with symptoms rather than the root problem.
Bodybuilding and lifting in general can have a positive impact on a man’s health, looks and mental state. But muscle construction and fat obliteration may still fail to generate female interest because they cannot turn an average person into one of the insanely attractive aristocrats that women of the Tinder age tend to go for.
Nonetheless, resistance training is a useful and healthy hobby as long as you don’t expect miracles out of it.
If you look at the gym as a way to meet new people, you would be better off focusing on another activity that actively encourages communication.