My dating experience led me to the following conclusion:
Men always look for a reason to say “yes” while women look for a reason to say “no”.
This is why dates are so tense when you are a man. It’s not said out loud, but you can subconsciously feel that you’re being HEAVILY evaluated. Hence why many men compare dates to job interviews.
It’s your “performance” that’s judged, not hers. The woman is the employer giving you the test while you’re the employee that goes under hard pressure to complete the exam.
Since the tests are extremely hard to pass, most men are willing to accept less-than-ideal “working conditions”, metaphorically speaking.
You’re willing to work more for less. You’re willing to ignore obvious problems with the position. But you don’t criticize the employer even in your head.
Meanwhile, the employer/women are more than happy to reject you over the smallest detail. One wrong move and it’s game over for you.
I will illustrate this with examples from my life:
1. One year ago, a woman told me ” you look taller in your photos.” I am about 183cm and often end up being among the tallest people on a public bus. I was also taller than her. But there she was. A princess criticizing me for not being the ultimate giraffe.
This is a perfect example of how much women have been spoiled. Meanwhile, she was a 28-year-old waitress with nasty yellow teeth, greasy hair and dirty jeans.
2. One time a woman blocked me because I said: “I don’t like traveling. I think it’s overrated. Tourists are just consumers pretending to be sophisticated.”
I guess I hit a sensitive spot there.
3. I’ve been rejected for not having a nice car at least once. It’s funny. Women would not be happy that you have a basic Nissan in good condition but would be impressed if you have some 20-year-old BMW or Mercedes on its last legs with a dashboard full of errors.
4. On a first date, a woman asked me to take a selfie with her so that she can send it to her mother. I refused and said to her that if her mother wants to see me, they can just look at my Facebook profile.
As you can guess, this was a deal-breaker for her.
Can you imagine the reverse situation? What would happen if a man asks a woman for a selfie for his father? (haha)
But women are not the only ones demanding maximum performance from men.
The rest of the world does so too.
As a man, your performance is ALWAYS judged by women, other men, the media…etc.
As long as you agree to play their game, they will never stop. You give them an inch, they demand a mile. The more you play, the more you lose. They will never stop.
And the most ironic part of it all, is that the more you try to satisfy them, the less they give you back. The more you give, the less you’re appreciated.
Read that again because it’s true about all kinds of human relationships.
The people who give the most are often those criticized the most.
For example, if a kid has one responsible parent doing everything and another that is rarely home, the kid will criticize the present parent rather than the absent one.
Why? Because the kid knows consciously or not that the doer parent will react somehow. Also, the doer creates an opportunity to be evaluated. When you do nothing, there’s nothing to judge.
A Painful Exercise
I challenge you (and myself) to perform the following exercise:
For some time, allow yourself to demand more from the women you meet.
Don’t become a maniac rejecting women over trivial things for the sake of it but raise the bar notably.
Go for women that are physically and emotionally more attractive to YOU. If you don’t like a woman, bounce without guilt. They do it all the time. What gives them the right and takes it from you?
Stop playing the game of satisfaction because you will never win it.
If You Don’t Demand More, You Will Never Get More.
If you let other people give you what they think you deserve, you will always get nothing.
If you don’t demand more, you will never get more. Of course, we all have to be realistic, but men have lowered the bar to the point where the only criteria for a woman is to be a woman.
I would rather see a loser man go for the princess than a winner go for Cinderella.
Back in the day, my family members said that I probably want too much from women and that’s why things don’t work out.
It was the opposite. My standards were incredibly low. For example, a weak 4/10 woman was enough for me.
Guess, what? Those women gave me the most annoying experience.
Don’t Be Afraid To Reject Women
Men often suffer from infatuation. You start communicating with a woman and immediately create an idealistic image out of her even though she isn’t even close to the person you’re building in your head.
It takes a lot of time for a person to prove themselves and become special. This is true, of course, for both parties.
Feeling heartbroken over a girl that you barely know, or worse – one that you’ve never met, is just illogical.
Don’t waste time on women that don’t deliver.
She isn’t responding to your texts? Bounce
She constantly rejects a date? You should’ve bounced after the first rejection.
Demand more. Demand better and don’t apologize.