I’ve been hearing the term “real man” since my childhood. In 99% of the cases, it’s used to provoke a specific reaction out of you through a shame injection.
“Are you even a real man,” said Becky after Harry failed to provide what she wanted.
Why does this expression exist?
Men have always been judged according to their performance in life. If you don’t satisfy the criteria of society for what a man is supposed to do, you are seen as a fake/non-real man.
The requirements change depending on the situation, but the mechanism never does. For example, in the past, men were shamed for evading a draft.
The shaming was so great, that some men would commit suicide even when they had legit reasons not to fight.
Imagine if tomorrow you wake up and everywhere you go in your small town, you are seen as a coward/insect. This is the kind of emotional abuse that those men went through.
Today, the expectations are a bit different primarily because the vast majority of the first world isn’t in an active war involving the territory of the country. But if a war was to start in your country, men who don’t fight will be shamed again.
In modern times, the “are you a real man” expression is targeted primarily at men who fail to spoil the people around them.
If you don’t provide for your wife and kids, you will not be considered a real man.
If you provide for them but fail to soften the rest of life’s blows, you will be classified as a fake man again.
In simpler terms, every time you fail to satisfy your family or society in general, you will be seen as a non-authentic man.
The Order of The White Feather
In 1914, an admiral founded the movement The Order of The White Feather.
The movement was encouraging women to give white feathers to men who haven’t joined the British Army. Or in other words, the military was stimulating women to shame men who don’t want or can’t kill other men.
That in and of itself reveals a brutal side of reality.
Allow me to explain.
1. Women have always been seen as the main male stimulus (the prize). There’s a reason why the movement encouraged women rather than men to give white feathers to the “quitters”.
2. The average man is always manipulated via guilt to serve.
3. The built-in sacrificial nature and empathy of men are always abused.
In some cases, even boys as young as 15 or 16 were shamed for not fighting. I cannot help but feel disgusted by this fact.
The Hypocrisy of Society
Imagine the following: A man is shamed to death for not participating in WWs. The people around him make his life a living hell.
Today, we consider those wars “a mistake” and many of the heroes of those times are now the world’s biggest villains.
See the evil hypocrisy?
Why is society so obsessed with your “real man” status?
Many people don’t realize this, but societies are inherently based on the exploitation of men.
You read that correctly.
Without the exploitation of men, you have no civilized world.
The houses, factories, bridges, monuments…etc. are all built by men.
The welders fixing pipes while laying in the mud are all men.
The people climbing the telephone post at 2 a.m. so that Becky can call Chad are all men.
The people who die in wars are primarily men.
The people who defend the country are primarily men.
The people who fix optic lines on New Year’s Eve so that Becky can swipe on her phone are all men.
The people pouring concrete so that Becky can have a place to live are all men.
The people fixing Becky’s Tesla that she bought by uploading nudes online are mostly men.
The people paying for Becky’s nudes are mostly men.
The dirtiest and most dangerous jobs in this world are and will continue to be performed by men.
If men refuse to participate, society just falls. Therefore, to ensure the smooth operation of this world, men must be somehow educated and taught to serve. Whenever men misbehave/underperform, they have to be punished and criticized.
When men complain, society hates it and immediately ostracizes the complainer.
You work two jobs, but you still can’t provide enough money for a vacation to Paris? Are you even a real man?
You happen to be born short? Did you forget to take your “real man” gene pills while you were in your mom’s belly?
You are a shy man afraid to make the first move? You are not a man, you’re a pussy.
Your wife cheated on you in the bed that you bought with two other guys? You must be insecure about your masculinity. It’s your fault she did it. Btw are you a real man?
Your mom passed away and you couldn’t help yourself and shed a tear? What a pussy!? I’m leaving you.
You lost your job!? Can’t you just die? Real men don’t lose their jobs.
My money is my money. Your money is our money but mostly my money. If you can’t realize this, you aren’t a real man.
Getting rejected 5,455 times by women made you feel bad? Just take it like a real man.
What is reality?
People may disagree, but in my opinion, every man born as a man is a man regardless of how many wars he’s fought or how much money he makes. There are brave men and cowardly men, there are poor men and rich men…etc. Nonetheless, all men are men. Saying otherwise is a lie.
If God created you as a man, you’re a man and will stay a man for your entire life regardless of your “performance”.
Are you a real woman?
In my entire life, I’ve never heard anyone ever use the term “real woman”.
Why? Because women are seen as inherently valuable just for existing thanks to their ability to give birth whereas men are seen as servants.
Actions > Words
People, men included, will often deny the above facts or try to brush them off, but the truth is the truth regardless of what you think of it.
The world has always seen males as disposable units serving the top 10% of elite men and 100% of women.