1/ The worst things in your life happen when you don’t expect them.
If I learned anything in this life, it’s that the most brutal situations/moments in your life come when you expect them least.
This is a rule as strong as gravity. I am mega serious.
And this is one “hack” that you can use to kill future-focused anxiety.
I repeat: the worst things ALWAYS happen when you expect them the least. Therefore, worrying is often pointless.
Those tragedies are completely unforeseeable and come with ridiculous destiny twists that you would have never thought of in the past.
Sometimes, the pain is somewhat expected (e.g., the death of an older relative), but the timing and the circumstances are parameters that have never crossed your mind.
Want examples?
- In 2018, my mother called me unexpectedly to tell me that my grandfather had fallen and broken his hip. As you can guess, I wasn’t expecting that. 1 year later, he died from something heart or lung-related in his sleep. Again – unexpected.
- In 2024, my dad called me on a random afternoon and told me that he’d just totaled his car. As you can guess, this was the last thing I expected. Thankfully, he and my mother were ok.
You get the point.
The nastiest stuff ALWAYS comes unexpectedly, so worrying is of dubious value.
I guess one can argue in a weird way that if you think of bad things, you make them “expected” and therefore negate them.
Well, that’s the thing. The rule still holds – it will simply “think” of something that you don’t expect – thus negating your efforts once again.
You can’t win.
You can’t argue with the universe. And this brings me to my next point.
2/ You don’t “create” your life. You Navigate It.
Only naive losers with the brain of a 3rd grader who’d spent 4 hours watching TikTok videos think that you “create” your life.
You don’t create anything. The universe phucking owns you. It owns you so hard, you can’t even imagine.
First, you chose practically none of your starting points (at least not knowingly). Those starting points include time of birth, gender, genetic traits, birthplace…etc.
Dude, know what?
That’s everything.
Pretty much all winners in life have good starting points. They got their life; they didn’t create it.
The brutal reality is that life could be described as follows:
- You are in a car that you didn’t choose. (Your body, family, nationality…etc.)
- That car has no brakes. It only goes forward. (Time.)
- That car is surrounded by a trillion other cars doing the same thing. Many of those cars are fighting for your lane.
- That car is 100% the bitch of physical laws. Monsters are coming out of everywhere. They want to rob your car.
Your best bet is to steer the car as well as you can to avoid damage, and that’s it.
Some people have fancier, safer, and faster cars. Others have cars without engines.
The separation line? Who knows? Random luck. Karma. A divine lesson. Punishment from another life.
Who knows?
Either we never knew, or our memory has been wiped out by whoever controls this realm.
The point is. Whoever you are, you are navigating life – whether you want it or not. You ain’t creating nothing.
You didn’t choose the conditions; they chose you.
3/ No one gets the kind of love you see in movies.
All romantic movies are a lie. That shit never happens. Never. You have a higher chance of getting pregnant from an asteroid than experiencing that level of romance.
That’s the truth. And the faster you learn it, the better you will be.
Men are more likely to get it. Women need about a trillion years as they play the role of the choosers.
And here’s a hard pill for women to swallow: after 25 years of age, every single man you meet will “disappoint” you.
At that point, the female brain activates a hidden switch (proven by science) that makes it super hard to feel content with your choice.
A 22-year-old woman who hasn’t flipped that switch has a higher chance of being happier in a romantic relationship than a 32-year-old one.
Deal with it.
4/ Today, all men are cucks in some form.
Rich and poor, weak and strong- all men are CUCKS. That applies from the naive souls buying features on dating apps to the likes of Andrew Tates.
All men are cucks.
How so?
No actual leverage to dictate the rules and enjoy respect.
We live in an era when men are breaking their shins and femurs to make themselves taller.
And many of the men who do that were not even that short to begin with. They risk severe complications and a lifetime of pain.
Why are they doing it? Why? How come Napoleon-brahs didn’t need to do any of that?
Men will lie that they are doing it “for themselves”. But come on. Sell that bridge to someone else.
If you were teleported to a deserted island that has the best leg-lengthening clinic on the planet (imagine it’s done by robots), would you still do it?
Would you still do it if no one was watching?
Of course not. Why bother?
Men ARE CRUCIFIED. Put in the corner. Tortured. Hated on.
This is the only explanation for similar drastic measures. Men are desperately fighting to satisfy society.
“Only men over 6′,” writes Tinderella in her bio and puts it right under her soulless selfies, without realizing that her father is barely 5’9″ and has a beer gut.
The point? You are owned. Owned.
And while that’s pretty obvious when it comes to the losers and average men, some might find it shocking that it’s true about “high-value men” too.
How so?
Well, what does high-value mean? It means rich and handsome, a.k.a. men who satisfy the criteria (at least temporarily).
And where does that money ultimately go? Yep. You got that right.
The truth is that men are subtly (sometimes not so subtly) but undeniably treated as disposable.
The high-value men are simply used for their genes and resources.
5/ No one truly knows what happens after you die.
Many teachings. Many theories. 100 different answers. Some of them are logical; others, not so much.
The truth?
No one knows for sure.
It doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read or podcasts you’ve consumed. It doesn’t. The brutal reality is that no one knows with certainty what exactly happens after your body dies.
Maybe it all ends; perhaps it doesn’t.
Even people who’ve had near-death experiences don’t. They’ve gotten close, but it’s not the same. Hence the word NEAR. Those people didn’t technically die. Maybe their life was paused, but it didn’t end.
So, all the theories – no matter the sources (smart or dumb) are just that – theories.
6/ This realm is a circle.
While we may not know what happens after death, we can analyze life. And to me, life is a damn circle.
A loop.
A vicious one. #Sisyphus approved loop.
People just like you and me have visited this place and left. No matter who you are. No matter how great you are. The loop consumes you. You can call it time or whatever, but time doesn’t really exist from the perspective of the system.
It exists for us because we (or at least our bodies) are finite, but eternity knows no time.
The world spins like a record player on repeat.
It’s all the same. Nothing new under the Sun.
No one invents and lives anything new.
It’s a circle within a circle within another circle that spins and spins and spins. It’s some sort of factory with no clear mission.
It’s a farm.
7/ Life is a series of stressful events, a long wall of dull moments and ultra-short moments of happiness.
This may sound weird, but I am not a negative person. I am serious. I am not. I am what one would call a realist.
I also have an eye for the bad shit that could take place. It’s not that I want it to happen; it’s just that I see it. Hence, I often appear negative.
But I’d rather be negative than delusional.
If you analyze the lives of people you know (e.g., your grandparents or parents), you will realize that their existence is/was exactly that – a series of stressful events and ultra-short moments of happiness.
One of my grandmothers lived to be 92. Then she died in a very unpleasant way.
And when I create even a basic chronological event of her life, which was longer than most people even want, it’s exactly that – a series of stressful events, a long wall of dull moments and ultra-short moments of happiness.
8/ Thoughts don’t become things.
Many people fall for the trap of the manifestation community and feel guilty when their thoughts aren’t “optimized.” They blame themselves when the outcome isn’t satisfactory and conclude that “had I thought X, Y would have happened.”
It’s nonsense.
First, read point 1 of this post.
Second, the world would be pretty chaotic if all people’s thoughts were becoming a reality. Come on. You don’t have to be a math genius to understand that the universe MUST function on rules independent of the whims that bounce around humans’ skulls.
Thoughts become things only when:
- They are backed by action.
- That action is capable of producing the desired outcome.
If that’s not the case, you can think whatever you want. It’s not becoming true.
Want a simple example?
Sports. During matches, thousands of people want one of the teams to win. Maybe it’s their favorite club; maybe they put money on it…whatever it is.
And yet there is only one winner. And it’s not because you had the wrong thoughts. It’s due to events outside of your head.
9/ If you want to get married, do it in a church, not in front of the government.
Marriage based on state laws is retarded and even a kid that can’t read gets why.
As a man, you have exactly nothing to gain from this circus. But let me list the negatives just in case:
First, it is VERY expensive.
Here’s the basic shopping list:
- A ring
- A venue
- A dress, costume
- Guest
- Parking
- Taxes
- Food
- DJ
- Photographer
- Agent
- Transportation
- Honeymoon
- …etc.
It’s a huge money burner.
What exactly are the benefits?
None if you are a male.
If you get divorced, you risk losing everything, including your house, car, and children. This is not accidental. It is by design. The court knows what it’s doing. Or maybe you think the people who made those laws were born yesterday?
They sign with the women for reasons I won’t discuss here.
The point is this. By signing that contract, you are loading a gun and giving it to her.
Now I know you believe the lie that she will love you forever, and maybe she believes it too.
But here’s the deal, brah.
When a person has leverage, they are very likely to use it sooner or later.
Imagine this. You are not a thief, but you see the wallet of a guy walking in front of you drop out of his back pocket. The guy is clueless and keeps walking. There are no cameras.
What do you do? Yes, many people will take the wallet and give it to the man. But just as many would steal it.
Many of those will be what’s known as opportunistic thieves. In other words, they wouldn’t enter a bus and try to slide out wallets from purses, but in opportunities when the risk is practically zero, they steal.
And that’s what many women do.
They enter marriages without always planning to get a divorce and destroy you. But in many cases, the opportunity becomes too sweet to ignore.
So, what do you do instead?
Option 1: Don’t get married at all.
Option 2: Get married in front of God in a church. All you need is a priest and at least one witness (could be your/her parents). That’s it. Case closed.
If your spouse has a problem with that, she doesn’t want to marry you. She just wants a wedding to showcase her dress and a contract that wraps wire around you in the future.
And the money saved from that circus could be invested in the college fund of your children.
10. Nigga You a Window Shopper
Mad at me, I think I know why
Factual observations made today. We are all slaves to something.
See fags, this is why u need to lift heavy! Else you’ll become a depressed beta bitch like Truth Seeker.
Don’t sulk in pain…go get the GAINZ!
🙂
So true with you dont create your reality you navigate it. I could have got ourtraged like my Dad when I found out my Wife drained one of our accounts. I did not rage at her because I relized well, we had not talked about it in person and seen the facts together. She has also been crazy busy working on her masters and we have a 3yr old son. Was I alarmed and suprised, hell yea. We talked about it and worked out a solution together. Will that solution be brought up again to be remindined or updated? Well, yea.
I don’t go to bars anymore because I am wiped by 9pm. My solution is to have sotial time at the playground with other parrents when I bring my son to deal with feeling lonly. I work weekends and my Wife is busy with her school and intership so I don’t see alot of her till she graduates. I do see alot of my son and have more parrenting role than most dads. I was the one that agreed with my Wife to pursue to education for her dream job and also have a kid.
My Dad used my Grandma to pressure me to see my Mom who has dementia. I told her we are to busy for that now and not saying we won’t see them. We will let you know when we want to see them. It kept the peace for me and my family to do that.
Solution: ride bikes every day. At least as close to a solution as you can get.
Completely agree with this. As for the limb lengthening observation. Most men i would say 99% of them are putting themselves through that purely because of comments they have had throughout their lives mainly from women or people in school/work places. They are risking serious long term problems with their legs and lifelong pain and its 100% women who are to blame for it. Women who for the best part are 4/10s max!
The fact of how that has become a thing in some countries (and unfortunately, I think such “trend” will get worse) says everything of the clown world we are stepping into.
The West is somehow turning into the reverse of strict Muslim societies when it comes to gender dynamics, and it’s as bad as the latter for those in the lowest tier of the hierarchy.
It is getting worse. There are guys out there who are 6 foot getting it because the height situation in the dating/employment world has gone beyond the scope of absolute ridiculousness.
I agree in my opinion unless you are at least 6 foot tall (pretty much average now), have a job that pays in excess of 30k a year (at least) you are completely fkd!
Everything is pointless and worthless at the end, since we are born to die.
You will die alone no matter what.
“Memento Mori”
You have to find one or more goals or interests in life and enjoy the journey.
No matter what the activities, there can be several.
Find an activity that lifts you up, that improves you.
Escape this life’s condition for the duration of your activities.
Show kindness and goodness to people who deserve it.
“Primum non nocere”.
Otherwise you’re cursed all your life and condemned to wander like a soul in pain until you die.
Absolute truth. Spend as much of your time doing the things you love and as little of your time dealing with things/people that you don’t love.
” The worst things in your life happen when you don’t expect them.” amen! And like TS already wrote, I too would say that the real bitch is that often when you think you expect something and you’re prepared, something else arrives and you realize you weren’t prepared at all. It’s like a punch that comes outside of peripheral / tunnel vision. Yes, you are blocking the obvious hits, but you miss the hook or the uppercut that catches you by surprise.
As for example, in my inner circle, many people have gotten fired lately because of the economic situation etc. And although they had all been expecting it to happen, no one was expecting the fact that at the same time health-related problems etc. suddenly appeared. And of course, the combination is bad.
I must admit that I was one the male fools to have difficulty with number 3. Although I don’t really play if / thens in life, I often feel stupid about the fact that as a kid I missed great opportunities in life because I was looking for that perfect Disney love. Going for pretty much the exact opposite would’ve given me much more.
“I guess one can argue in a weird way that if you think of bad things, you make them “expected” and therefore negate them.” This is a good point and often comes up in my life, because I’m a bit of a realist myself too. I learned this when I was in the army, I thought and said out loud that we were not going to get a weekend off etc., and I always prepared for the worst in everything, and that made my service time comfortable, because things turned out positive in the end most of the time. Of course this didn’t always work for all. Sometimes some fingers were torn off or whatever in stupid accidents but in general, everything was positive in the end.
I’m really becoming old because I suddenly remember odd things that I learned in the past. This came to my mind about number 8 which once again reminds me off the good old “selfhelpguruman(and any other superlative)” Tony Robbins. He once said something about goals and positive thinking that went like this “There are people who think that positive thinking and thinking about your goals does it all. It’s like thinking about how weeds are going to magically disappear from the garden if you think so hard enough. Well, it isn’t going to happen, you’ll get better results just by pulling those suckers out and then continuing your life.” I agree.
Oh yeah, I’m not that tall, at least by today’s standards, but when I was young, life threw me one of those curveballs and I broke my shin badly playing sports. The pain and recovery were so incredibly difficult to deal with that I would never break a bone for some stupid reason like appearance.
Truth Seeker can you do an article about the lessons we should have learned during the pandemic.
Personally i believe that the pandemic and the aftermath has caused untold damage to people. Mostly to peoples attitudes towards work and how its somehow other peoples responsibility to look out for other people health when any other given time these people are happy to completely disregard health when it doesnt suit them. Also touch upon the sheep mentality that ensued
That would be a heck of an article!Unfortunately it’s still a touchy subject. You always have someone coming out of the woodwork with a relative or friend who died of COVID who will accept nothing but the official version even though the deceased was likely on deaths door anyway. And I’m not even touching on conspiracy theories, just on items like work and groupthink as you say. This site does deal with touchy subjects but zero mention of the pandemic since it happened.
I think Truth actually mentions the pandemic in some of his recent articles, but yeah, he hasn’t written his full thoughts about what happened back then and the aftermath.
The versions are irrelevant. My, your, his, truth seeker, nobody knew anything and in case of facing an uncertain new phenomenon that has the potential of disrupting your whole civilization you just take precautions until proven otherwise. “Ey the government can lie!!” Yes so? There is no error proof way of knowing from the conform of your sofa if they’re lying or not, this only proves that honesty is essential for the functioning of society.
“Yeah but only X quantity of people died” the biggest mountain that you saw ain’t the biggest mountain that can exist. Egyptians used to calculate flood risks based on the biggest floods they had seen at that point, with the obvious set back that when a bigger one came they were not prepare. My point is that you cannot do anything when those phenomena appear, you can only take precautions, be prepared, and wait to see how dangerous it is. For logical reasons you get the answer a posteori
I would also like to see TruthSeeker’s take on that.
Like Dan says, I think he could avoid things surrounded by conspiracy theories like the virus/vaccines and focus on the hard facts such as the evil of groupthink, psychological warfare and government overreach/mass manipulation.
It’s no coincidence for me that “brainrot” content of all types had kind of a Cambrian explosion during the years of the pandemic. In fact, during that time I fell for some content (mostly self-improvement and “Red Pill” stuff) I’m pretty sure I would’ve seen for the dumb BS it is at any other point of my life.
The scamdemic/plandemic was all bullshit.
Miniaturesden and Rhauljg are the new father&mother of the system and son respectively. You know get your times arrow and your naavi horn and hunt them down.
Truthseeker, your philosophical writings have a Schopenhauerian feel to them. I wonder if you have read his works.
From his essay On the Sufferings of the World:
We are like lambs in a field, disporting themselves under the eye of the butcher, who chooses out first one and then another for his prey. So it is that in our good days we are all unconscious of the evil Fate may have presently in store for us—sickness, poverty, mutilation, loss of sight or reason.
No little part of the torment of existence lies in this, that Time is continually pressing upon us, never letting us take breath, but always coming after us, like a taskmaster with a whip. If at any moment Time stays his hand, it is only when we are delivered over to the misery of boredom.
Personally i believe the pandemic has caused untold damage to society. It ruined the economy, businesses, killed people with late diagnosis’s, robbed people of experiences. It was a massive violation of peoples civil rights in an effort to save the lives of people who were high risk largely through their own lifestyle habits. I appreciate the elderly were at risk as well but the majority of them didnt die either it simply affected them like a common cold same way it did 99% of people.
It has also instilled widespread laziness that people are still suffering a hangover from.They say stuff like ‘The pandemic gave me a better insight into my work life balance’ Which essentially translates to ‘Its much more fun not working’ – fkn groundbreaking! As if most people didnt know that anyway. They are also in complete denial about how badly the pandemic fkd the global economy with the usual excuses about the war in Ukraine being the culprit or if you are in the UK ‘its all brexits fault’.
The sheer level of dumbfuckery that went on was off the scale! Folk driving in their cars alone wearing masks. People in cafes ordering at the till being forced to wear a mask but then allowed to remove them at their tables which were about a metre apart. People moaning about face masks and hand sanitiser going up in price to £5-10 but happy to sit at home drinking alcohol and eating junk.
The divide that it caused politically was interesting as well. Most people on the right wanted to get back to work and get things going again whilst those on the left were quite clearly revelling in the situation enjoying nearly every aspect of their lives being controlled for them. Covid was only selectively and periodically contagious to the left as well who were happy to go out rioting and vandalising when a few incidents occurred that made the news that they disagreed with. All of a sudden covid has called in sick and its no longer ‘careless and uncaring’ to not socially distance. Of course the threat of the dreaded four letter word ‘work’ got them back home!. Most of these left leaning individuals were overweight and a number had health problems brought on from lifestyle habits (which of course they claim were bad luck) which made them high risk in the first place. I do not see why it became my responsibility (and others of course) to alter my lifestyle and effectively destroy my businesses to look after people who any other time had no care in the world about their health anyway!.
One of the most shocking incidents i experienced during the pandemic was when my girlfriends sister was admitted to hospital with severe fibroids in her stomach which was causing her stomach to distend. They told her she needed an emergency operation to remove them which would cost around £3000. I sent this cash abroad for the procedure and was then told the operation was delayed due to the doctors recommending that she avoid going into hospital because of risk of covid. I told her to tell them to get a fkn grip and get the operation done asap before it gets worse but they insisted covid was a bigger threat to her wellbeing. About 7 months later she went in for the operation to discover the fibroids had now moved on to her uterus t the extent which also needed to be completely removed!. And heres the funny part – she caught covid a few months after delaying the operation and suffered no symptoms or side effects from it whatsoever with the exception of a slight loss of taste in the mouth! – Yes devastatingly lethal!
Im going to stop now before i rewrite war and peace but this is merely a fraction of the dumbfuckery that went on during that two year period where certain morons brought the planet to a standstill over something so blown out of proportion.
Gerry, your comment is much appreciated, well written and touches upon many important points. Agreed entirely.
I could have written a lot more Dan. Thats a fraction of the utter stupidity and madness i witnessed during those two years. The entire thing caused a lot of tension in my family as well.
Have you ever heard about martin butler’s podcasts? He talks abous exactly the same stuff and inthink you’ll find it very intersting, its pure gold.