The societal web of unwritten rules has created a very hostile environment for virgins. Technically, both genders experience this problem, but the resentment is greater towards men.
Admitting that you’re a male virgin past a certain age, which drops every year, is akin to saying that you’re a sociopath of the highest order.
Most men would prefer to publicly state that they’re drug dealers than to reveal their lack of sexual experience.
We’ve been conditioned to hate our virginity and consider it a weakness and a defect. Consequently, people use virgin-shaming as a way to abuse others. The aggressors are familiar with the pain of the victim and take pride in knowing that they have already immunized themselves against this “curse”.
The secular entertainment, the corrupt educational system, and the lack of spiritualism in schools created a base for this to happen and boosted the engine behind virgin hate to a very high degree.
And since most of us have been raised by TV shows and lyrics deprived of higher intellect, our generations embraced the indoctrination without notable resistance.
The digital infrastructure connecting modern people today reinforced promiscuity among the youth even further and with it the mockery of virgins.
“Sex is everywhere except where it belongs.”
Many years ago, when I was walking towards a fast food restaurant with a couple of my high-school friends, one of them asked me: “Have you ever seen tits?” I said yes and pointed towards the closest billboard. It was showing a half-naked woman. We laughed.
The omnipresence of conscious and subconscious sexual references turns sex into an obsession while simultaneously cheapening it. People are talking about sex all the time as if it’s the focal point of their lives and yet marginalize it by having multiple sexual partners and indulging in perverted frameworks.
3. Failure to Fit In = A Weapon in Society’s Hands
Virgin-shaming produces a special kind of delirium – it provides people with the opportunity to experience the joy of slaughtering those who haven’t met all social criteria.
And since sex is considered one of the greatest human practices, the strength of the weapon amplifies to phenomenal proportions.
Society tells us that originality and individuality are rewarded, but that’s a lie. The societal organism is very unfriendly towards those who don’t follow the cultural path accepted as normal.
If you don’t fit in, you will get ostracized, ridiculed and suffer an informal social death.
Why Do Men Undergo Greater Mockery for Being Virgins
1. Hating on Men = Approved
Aggression towards men is socially accepted. It is expected of you to just take it. If you fail to do so, you instantly lose your status as a real man.
When you add the detail that we live in times when masculinity is considered a source of evil, you get the perfect conditions for an environment favoring misandry.
The hate against men does not come solely from women. Men hate on other men all the time as an expression of their superiority. E.g., “I’m an alpha, you’re a beta virgin.
2. Men Have to Prove Themselves
Men face greater societal pressure because it is expected of us to prove our worth. The world won’t let you call yourself a man until you answer a large list with requirements many of which are heavily influenced by corrupt notions.
In other words, men have to become men whereas women are accepted as women by default.
In consequence, we face grave penalties when our performance in life suffers.
3. Fewer Repercussions (according to society)
One time, back when I was working in an office with imbalanced levels of estrogen, the women there unequivocally agreed that sex is easier to get when you’re a man. Their thesis hinged on the conclusion that men can just “hit it and run”.
That’s a possible scenario, but it doesn’t prove that men could get sex with less effort than women. It only shows that men may have an easier time running away from the repercussions.
This claim cannot be accepted as 100% valid because it’s not, but even if it was, it isn’t as closely correlated to a “low barrier to entry” as one may think.
Why? Because at the end of the day, the woman decides whether something will happen or not.
Men have a stronger sexual drive because we have lower chances of reproducing and face greater competition from other men. Thus, our preferences for a sexual partner drop to zero when we get horny. On the other hand, women have been gifted with the responsibility to decide whether a sexual act will occur or not.
Or in simpler words: it doesn’t matter how fast you can run away if you can’t get in, to begin with.
Ultimately, women are the gender that can enter a sexual adventure with ease.
4. Sex Is Used as a Measure of One’s Worth
Virgin-shaming hurts deeply because it suggests that virgins are inferior, low-value males. The insult is engineered to shake your faith in yourself fundamentally by triggering profound self-hatred and a feeling of inadequacy.
Why Are Women So Hard on Virgins?
The first thought that arises in a woman’s mind upon hearing that a man is a virgin is a simple question – “WHY?”
And if you’re past the accepted age for losing your virginity, the conclusion is that there’s something terribly wrong with you…that you are inherently broken or a “creep” of the highest order.
The reasoning is simple – if you were a socially calibrated high-value person, a woman would have already expressed sexual interest in you.
Women tend to gravitate towards universally desired men. When a woman sees that other representatives of her sex are interested in you, her attention increases. “Hm…there must be something about this guy,” she thinks to herself.
Due to this mechanism, a woman is more likely to be turned on by a hot bad boy orbited by other females than a loner.
In my high school, one guy took the virginity of several women. I don’t think that’s a coincidence.
Why do women take such great pleasure in calling men virgins?
Women are the gatekeepers of sex. By labeling you as a virgin, they are telling you: “Pass denied.” This is their strongest weapon and consequently their greatest chance to insult you on a cellular level.
They assume that all men who are virgins are so by fate rather than choice, which is not entirely true of course and enjoy watching you suffer inside. In their minds, a man cannot exist unless he receives validation from a woman.
Why the World Wants You to See Virginity as a Sin
Have you ever wondered why the world is so concerned with your virginity?
Why are they bothering you? Why do they want you to hate yourself for being a virgin?
Several explanations come to mind:
The system uses sex as a control tool. The modern world rewires the internal desire for intimacy in a direction beneficial to the program and puts men on the sex treadmill by convincing us that our lives would be wasted if we don’t maximize our sexual conquests.
If you try to abstain from that ideology, society shames you until you return to “normal”.
2. Destruction of the family unit
Sleeping around before marriage or afterward creates dysfunctional bonds. If you have slept with dozens of people, and your spouse has done the same, you wouldn’t value each other as much as possible.
I’d rather marry a Christian woman saving herself for marriage than one that has been with an unknown number of men.
There’s something sacred about sex that the modern world has seemingly destroyed, but sooner or later, the virtues worth respecting will return.
And since the system does not value strong families as they threaten the power of the king, the world pushes people into sin.
I’ve said it before and will say it again – the modern world is a sterile environment. We live in virtual realities and watch moves a.k.a. fake stories while playing the economic game.
Without pleasures loaded with dopamine, a revolution would take place tomorrow morning.
Sex serves as a source of adrenaline and dopamine too. In fact, it’s probably the best one. For that reason, we are encouraged to chase it even when the pursuit is detrimental to our souls.
Frequently Asked Questions
I am a 25+ virgin. Should I tell a woman that I am a virgin before having sex with her?
In a perfect world, the response to this question would probably be yes. But my answer is – you don’t have to.
Why? Because women aren’t programmed to see your virginity as a sign of pureness; they consider it an indication of “weirdness”. Chances are that your excessive honesty will not be appreciated.
Some may say that you are obliged to tell her, but that’s not true. By omitting to expose your lack of sexual experience, you’re not putting her in danger unless you have an STD that you’ve acquired another way (blood contamination). But even if that’s the case, your responsibility is to tell her that you’re caring a virus, not that you’re a virgin.
Remember. No woman would provide you with a genuine insight into her sexual past. As they say, whenever a woman gives you a number, multiply it.
If that’s the case, why do you have to tell her that you’re a virgin? So that she can mock you? If anything, you’re the one more likely to get an STD unless she is pure herself.
I lost my virginity in my 20s without telling my partner that I am a virgin. I don’t regret it as she turned out to be a very mean person feeding me lies. However, had our “love” survived, I would have probably shared my secret with her one day.
And if you’re wondering, a woman would have a hard time decoding that you’re a virgin. She has no way of knowing unless you inform her. She can label you as “bad in bed”, but her powers end there. Even if you experience a “premature ejaculation”, the chances of which are low when you have sex with a condom, she still won’t know. In my case, she even orgasmed, although that was “luck” rather than the result of my performance.
Should I hate myself for being a virgin?
No. There’s nothing shameful about being a virgin despite what the world says. Nonetheless, sharing this information with many people could have a negative effect. People are mean. If you give them an opening, they’ll hit you.
Should I look for a virgin girlfriend/wife?
You can look for whatever you want, but at the end of the day, you’ll only discover what’s available.
Your chances of finding a virgin girl past high-school are extremely low. Women virgin-shame each other all the time and consider virginity a burden too. I’ve witnessed it. The girls at my high-school were literally trying to get rid of their virginity as if it was a cardinal sin.
In the perfect scenario, you’d meet the love of your life while you’re still young, and then you will both lose your virginity to each other after getting married before God.
Unfortunately, few people get to live such a life.
Is it my fault that I’m a virgin?
It could be. If you’re out of shape, never leave your house and indulge in anti-social activities, you are greatly reducing your chances of getting “action”.
However, many men are rejected not on the basis of their effort but due to their looks.
In general, the more attractive you are, the easier it is to attract women in your life.
As you get older, money becomes of higher importance too, but physical attraction is always the engine because we live in a highly visual world.