You’ve probably heard the stories about politicians and businessmen who have an entire wardrobe of the same suit to minimize the number of decisions made in a day.
Instead of wondering “what should I wear?”, you just wake up and put on an outfit that has already proven to be comfortable and of adequate appearance.
A while back, I had a simple idea.
“What if I apply the same principle to other decisions in life?”
Hence why I came up with the term “lifetime decisions”. (Obviously, it’s not a novelty.)
The concept is as follows: A situation repeats itself enough times for you to know the outcome with great certitude. Not 100% as this would be impossible, but close enough. You then prepare a certain input from yourself (something you do or say) to either minimize pain/damage or maximize profit (emotional, financial…etc.)
Then, you apply this behavioral sequence whenever the same situation arises. In essence, you’re wearing the same suit in regards to that situation, except it’s not a suit but a pattern of actions.
Commuting on a bicycle where I live is a weird experience. People here don’t like cyclists and see us as the bottom of barrel creatures.
I’ve been in situations when I wanted to break the windows of cars. For example, one time a taxi driver started insulting me, asking why I wasn’t using the “bike lane”. The bike lane at that zone is practically unusable, but only someone who actually cycles would know that.
He kept calling me a “*****” to the point where his passenger got ashamed. I said “*****” and moved on.
Eventually, I realized a simple truth – road rage is never in your favor and made a lifetime decision never to react to provocations.
Ignore Former Friends
I’ve lived a fairly long time in the same city. Thus, I’d often see former classmates and other ancient acquaintances of mine from my days as a skateboarder.
Before, I used to have a normie reaction. I would greet them and stop for a conversation.
One time, a classmate insisted that we exchange contacts.
“We can meet sometimes,” he said.
I gave him my phone number even though it’d never changed (he was supposed to have it). I dropped him a text. He never responded (female behavior).
Then, on another occasion, I saw my best friend from high school in a jeep. He looked at me and pretended not to recognize me.
At that moment, I took a lifetime decision – whenever I see a former acquaintance, I would ignore them as those interactions seem completely pointless.
Don’t Get Angry When People Don’t Feel Compassion For You
Let’s face it. Male tears don’t count according to society. It is expected of males to be stoic rocks who just take it.
On many occasions, even my own mother would display clear disdain for my complaining even if there’s logic behind it.
At first, that deeply hurt me. “Why can’t they see my pain?”
But eventually, I realized that remaining silent is the better choice for me.
Thus, I took a lifetime decision – don’t explain your pain.
This principle has saved me a great number of disputes.
Don’t Give Women a Second Chance
On many occasions, I’ve tried to restart interactions with a woman that had gone nowhere.
Big, stupid mistake.
Once disrespected, it’s over.
People don’t change.
Once they stab you, it will happen again. Re-starting a convo=calling them back for more hits.
Thus, I took a lifetime decision – when a woman is out, she’s out.
Don’t Eat Bread
Technological, modern bread gives me brutal acid reflux. A couple of years ago, I ate two large pizzas on New Year’s Eve.
I don’t know what they put in the bread, but it brutalized my stomach. I’d never felt so much stomach pain in my life, and I’ve eaten mountains of junk food.
I couldn’t move.
After a sleepless night, I went to the emergency room at 6.a.m. They told me that it will go away eventually and to just endure. Honestly, it was brutal.
After 10 more hours, the pain decreased and after a few more days I was somewhat ok.
I didn’t eat any pizza for over a year, and eventually quit bread too.
Get out of bed as soon as you wake up.
I always wake up early regardless of when I go to bed. If I go to bed at 1 a.m. I still wake up no later than 7 a.m.
On many occasions, I would wake up and just stare at the ceiling or browse on my phone because it would be too early.
For a while, I even got addicted to watching the “Reels” on Instagram even though I don’t use the app for personal reasons.
Both felt wrong. Thinking resulted in over-thinking and negative thoughts coming into my head.
Instagram reels hypnotized me and turned me into a mindless scroller wasting his time watching people who practically live in another universe.
I hated that habit and made a lifetime decision to get out of bed as soon as possible forcing myself not to think about anything. Just jump out of bed and get dressed.
Back in the day, I used to follow the political world in my country. Part of it was my father. He is heavily into politics and spends a huge chunk of time watching all kinds of political content.
Eventually, I realized that I was doing it for a dopamine hit rather than something progressive. I’d open a site to see if something interesting has happened, but at the end of the day, I had to admit the obvious – it doesn’t really matter whether you follow politics or not. You aren’t changing anything by reading the latest article.
I’ve lived long enough to know that most of politics are speculation. Experts come on TV and say their “theory” without any repercussions.
The usual scenario is:
Expert: “A” will happen.
Reality: “B” happens.
Expert: Long circular logic talk about how he was actually right.
Of course, some people will call me irresponsible or an immigrant in my own country because I deliberately chose not to follow any of this.
But the ironic part is that it really doesn’t matter whether you’re heavily invested in politics or not.
Writing Your Lifetime Decisions On a Piece Of Paper
It’s trivial but true. Writing something on a piece of paper (not the computer or the phone) results in a stronger commitment.
I find it useful to keep a small notepad filled with different “revelations” including your lifetime decisions.
Before a big day, you may even go over them.
Lifetime Decisions Are Personal
You shouldn’t follow my lifetime decisions. Yours should come out of your personal life. They should be your own product in order to feel right.
Failure Is Fine
The point isn’t to follow a lifetime decision 100% of the time. That’s similar to expecting to eat chicken and broccoli 24/7. It won’t happen unless all other foods disappear.
If you get to 80%+, you’re already getting most of the benefits that a lifetime decision can offer.