I remember the first time I watched Fight Club. It was on a summer day after I’d returned home from my first job as a teenager. (I worked as a spammer filling people’s mailboxes.)
I didn’t get the movie at the time. I was half asleep and thought that it was too loud. The woman looked unnaturally non-hygienic too. In fact, the entire movie felt non-hygienic.
As an adult, I re-watched the best parts again, and the famous quote “the things you own end up owning you” by Tyler Durden stayed with me.
Eventually, I had a revelation that the opposite is even truer:
The things that you don’t own end up owning you.
In the movie, the apartment of the main character built on the basis of Ikea obsession burns to the ground. And while this makes for some nice symbolism (anti-materialism), in reality, being homeless is a very unpleasant experience that no one truly wants to go through.
Homeless people look like the opposite of free to me.
If tomorrow you find your home in ashes would you really feel free?
Or more importantly, will you actually be free?
I’d rather obsess over what Ikea furniture to buy than looking for the right bridge to sleep under.
2. Female Presence
You don’t have a girlfriend. You feel sad because “you’re lonely” and missing out. Your hormones are also complaining.
Sooner or later, your life starts to revolve around the mythical girlfriend that you don’t have.
You begin using dating apps, approaching women, exercising, clothes styling…etc.
You become a slave to the chase for “love”.
Disclaimer: This post doesn’t suggest that women are something that one can own (possess). It’s referring to having a female presence in your life. It’s clear that people shouldn’t be treated as property.
Minimalism is trendy because it sells to the great number of first-world citizens who’ve hoarded a large number of useless items – two cars, five bikes, 20 TVs, 50 phones, 150 shoes…etc.
Those people think they’ve found the hack to life when they start selling the junk that has been sitting in their garage for decades.
But let me tell you something, I would rather be in that situation than be poor.
Minimalism a.k.a. faked/pretend poverty is fun only when you’re rich.
Real poverty isn’t fun. Ever.
When I was 12-13, both of my parents lost their jobs, and we lived on leftovers for a couple of years.
One time we were so out of money that I and my mother were super happy to find 2-3 bucks in the house. She told me to buy a sandwich with the money, and so I did.
When you don’t have money, you obsess over it because its absence depresses you.
You have to work jobs that you don’t like (if you can find one in the first place) and follow a super strict budget shook by a pack of bubble gums.
Sooner or later, your entire existence becomes a slave to the lack of money.
Children dictate the life of their parents. If your kid is sick, you’re sick. If your kid needs help, you have to provide it. If your kid is crying, you’re crying.
But people who don’t have kids aren’t free either. Childless people, especially women, are very sad people because we haven’t experienced something fundamental that touches your soul like nothing else.
There’s a very rich dude on YT that I watch from time to time who has millions if not billions but when a conversation about kids is started, one can see that he’s hurting inside because he never had any.
Disclaimer: This post doesn’t suggest that children are something that one can own (possess). It’s clear that people shouldn’t be treated as property.
When you’re a skinny bitch, your lack of thick fibers ends up controlling your life too.
You start lifting weight, bulking, following the “best routines” for natties, bowing to Mark Rippetoe…etc.
Before you know it, your life is once again at the mercy of something you don’t have.
Where do I start?
Men deprived of sex (which is pretty much the majority) can do crazy things to get it or release the pressure:
The list is long:
- forcing yourself to have sexual intercourse with women you don’t like
- going to venues you don’t want to go to
- dressing to attract women
- lifting weights
- taking steroids
- plastic surgeries
- dick elongation procedures
“It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we are free to do anything.”
This is the main message of the movie, but ironically, the people who really like this quote aren’t as uncomfortable as one might think. Most are first world citizens who happen to be tired of materialism.
Imagine that you suddenly lose everything. You don’t have anything to your name.
Would you really be free?
The answer is no. In fact, you will be more enslaved because people will have more leverage over you. When you don’t have anything, you often have to agree with bad terms.
Who do you think is freer? The guy who has to work a minimum wage job that he hates but returns to a minimalist-approved apartment consisting of an air mattress and a chair or the guy living in a mansion?
The people who romanticize similar philosophies never had nothing.