Romantic movies often depict men as evil creatures who always find a way to hurt the feelings of their partner. Generations of boys have been raised with the idea that women are constantly oppressed by evil males too numb and sexually-oriented to understand the sorrow inhabiting the loving female heart begging for commitment and emotional warmth.
That’s a scam even bigger than natural bodybuilding. The women living in the countries producing the majority of those films are certainly not repressed by the men next to them but rather by their naivete and a system filling their heads with corrupted concepts, namely fake feminism, helping the sought cultural restructuring.
What the propaganda forgets to mention is that women can deploy a powerful emotional weapon capable of ravaging almost any man on the planet.
One of the leading reasons for male depression and suicide is loneliness and the lack of female and societal support. But nobody talks about that because people are too focused on hating us and explaining everything bad in this world with masculinity.
This summer I suffered many rejections that wrecked me – I developed insomnia that lasted over a month. I would often go to bed at 10-11 pm and just look at the ceiling until 1 a.m. Then I would watch sports on TV until 5 in the morning. Meanwhile, the woman that put me into that neither-awake-nor-asleep-state certainly didn’t lose sleep over me – she was too busy parting with her girlfriends and chasing males of higher value according to society’s perception.
The sunny months of 2019 were dark for me, but at least they gave me a lot of material to work with and inspired some of the stories in the fiction book that I have been working on. You will learn more about it in a few weeks.
Lifting played a big role in my recovery; it has many properties making it a logical choice during emotional recuperation.
Below are 5 reasons to keep fighting gravity even when your heart is crying.
A decade ago, I developed an overuse hip injury because I was a stupid permabulker addicted to low bar squats. I didn’t allow it to heal out of fear that I was going to lose my invisible gains. It got so bad that I couldn’t even walk properly for a while.
Only rest helped. And by rest, I mean real rest – no leg training. I tried massage therapy, funny stretching, NSAIDs and searched for a chiropractor who can do an IT band release. Yet the entire time, I knew that the only way to recover was to stop doing the activity hurting me.
The same applies to the pain that breakups synthesize. It will never heal unless your focus switches to something else. Lifting allows that to happen – a set of heavy deadlifts or even biceps curls puts you in the present moment – away from the painful memories, the anger and the tears.
Every minute spent on a different frequency speeds up the recuperation. An hour away from the pain is an hour of progress.
2. Better sleep
“Screen labor” can be a marathon for your mind and eyes, but the ultimate sleeping pill will always be a gracious amount of lactic acid.
In this case, volume is your friend. Longer training days with plenty of sets and reps work the best. The post-breakup period isn’t one of those times when you want to leave the gym early to browse Facebook and pretend that you are productive.
Physical work can produce even more profound sleeping effect, but it comes with one major downside – it can cause depression on its own when you don’t believe in the mission.
If you work for somebody else, and they force you to perform an activity until you dream of destroying the planet, the results will be counterproductive. For instance, working in a warehouse for 12 hours a day will tire you to the point where you may fall asleep on the bus and allow your head to drop on a stranger’s shoulder, but later, the experience may keep you up at night questioning life.
Conversely, dedicating your effort to personal missions (e.g., working on your car, gardening…etc.) has a therapeutic effect and is less likely you to stimulate overflowing dread.
3. Don’t let her witness your demise.
Women, especially those who have rejected you, love seeing you suffer because the spectacle makes them feel powerful – breaking male hearts is their secret addiction.
If after a separation you turn into a lard collector and acquire diabetes due to sugar overload – she will be delighted to contemplate your slow death because it would validate her decision to drop you.
“I told you, Becky. This guy is weak. He is now a potato. It’s good that I left him,” said the bitch that hurt you.
Don’t give them the pleasure of seeing you suffer over them. They don’t deserve it. Preserve your constructive habits even if you are just going through the motions – a year from now you will be happy that you didn’t quit; that you didn’t let her drain your soul.
The woman that you are crying over today will be the one you despise tomorrow.
She never loved you. If she did, she wouldn’t have hurt you. While you are getting sick and allowing all kinds of mental bacteria to party inside your head, she is busy having fun, some of which comes from the opportunity to watch your seppuku. Don’t provide that option.
4. You need a goal even if it’s superficial.
I always try to make things philosophical. But sometimes you have to dance on the surface before you can safely return to chasing depth. This is one of those moments.
I have said it before and will say it again – the gym is a sterile environment. We do it because modern life lacks authentic adrenaline and is entirely based on perpetual economic slavery deprived of essence speaking to the deeper layers within a man.
Nonetheless, lifting is still a significantly better choice than passive alternatives. When you lift – you are in charge – strong and powerful. Yes, it’s staged, but it’s an activity that could produce a hormonal explosion carrying the capacity to temporarily resurrect an individual.
One of training’s major benefits is that it allows you to create a fairly realistic goal. Whether it’s a deadlift PR or a set of six-pack abs – it’s something that you can aim at – the distraction that a man needs in times of never-ending turmoil.
Set a goal. Be shameless. Make it whatever you want it to be. If you want to learn pistol squats – do that. If you want to get a pump, show appreciation to the hammer strength machines and leave. The decision is yours. Be fearless and honest. You don’t owe anybody an explanation.
And before all – make sure that your training compass is not heavily influenced by the pursuit of women. Don’t try to get back at her by building a new body. Don’t focus on revenge – it’s never worth it. You don’t want women who hurt you in your thoughts. Pretend she doesn’t exist for as long as you can.
5. A joint is designed to move.
Active rest is a very important part of a joint’s rehabilitation. The same goes for your entire being – after you get hit, you have to start moving. If you choose to remain inactive, the wound will augment.
The faster you resume your life before the emotional terrorism that you have most likely experienced, the faster the pain will evaporate.